Thursday, June 7, 2012

Marriage -vs- Happiness

My neighbour is slightly younger than my father and lives with his girlfriend who's quite younger than me. I guess in this day and age that's not even surprising leave alone shocking. It's not the kind of story that gives you pause as you go about your day. If anything, you sit expectantly waiting for the rest of the story as surely, that can't be it!

I have no doubt that he has a wife and family elsewhere who he has left for the spring chicken. Contrary to what you might expect though, today I present this story from the man's perspective. I had an older workmate who did just this. He moved away from his family when his girlfriend got pregnant.

Although I'd been working there for some time when the drama unfolded, I'd never once heard this guy say anything kind about his wife. Not the one. So you can imagine my jaw dropping surprise when I met said wife and found that she was a stunner (I always admire women who find a way to age gracefully). This woman was (and I suspect still is) simply beautiful. My workmate (let's call him Tim) had simple problems with her; she simply drove him crazy. Examples:

"Yesterday I washed the dishes (remember this guy's age set is the type that wouldn't know where the kitchen is) and she washed them again saying she knew that I'd done it badly and wondered what I was trying to prove anyway. Why did she have to do that? Why can't she be more appreciative?"


"The woman constantly complains about anything and everything! I'm loathe to go home! Waiter!"


"Romance? The woman has no idea what the word means. Nothing happens in the bedroom no more."

His girlfriend (who we'll call Njambi) didn't have half his wife's looks, but she knew how to make her man feel special. She was (and presumably still is (- I've lost touch with these people)) a very imposing person and not too young herself but I guess she captivated his attention in a manner his wife had long since stopped trying to. He was comfortable and at peace when around her so it was difficult to begrudge him the decision to leave his family (wife & 3 kids) for Njambi. He chose happiness. He (presumably still) supports both homes.

So I guess this is a wake up call to women. You must have heard it a million times before but don't take your man for granted & don't be the source of his frustration.

Postscript: the neighbour in question is very comfortable about his anatomy/masculinity and I've seen him naked. Twice. I'm still trying to wipe the image from my psyche! Idiot hangs around his door stark naked ...

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    1. Why doth author remove comment? I remember seeing and having thoughts on it. Something about the woman being better off? Guess in some situations that must be true but remember in our strange genetic make up, women are the ones who go over the top in nagging as a sign of love and relentlessly flog the dead horse of love in a bid to hold on to whatever little life may linger there ...

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    2. Author doth removest comment in an attempt to trigger guilt on thine blogger's part-eth. If you dont reply I'll remove it, kwani you think you're special how? Mscheew! Hahaha...

      So odds are the reason we dont see said woman is because she's stuck flogging the dead horse? Well that's depressing. :-(

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      I replyeth! Step away from the delete button!

      It's unfortunately the end of the stick I see being held on to more often than not .. But that's only cynic melodramatic me!

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    4. I shalt not delete. :-)

      I guess that's how we grieve us women? Ashes, sack cloth the works? And on an unrelated note, so is this man still exposing himself to you? And have you taken a picture? (just remembered the ostrich, I'll be laughing all day now...)

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    5. Looooool!!!
      That's however an image that needs no sharing. Let's let the unsuspecting public be.

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  2. he wants to lure you with his masculinity lol

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    1. I'm pretty sure some hapless lass must have been struck blind by that sight! *shudder*

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