Sunday, August 25, 2013

Finding Love Online


I've discovered internet dating!

It's actually not the end of the world; it's something people apparently do. If this month's True Love is to be believed, there's this lady who found her love online. At the age of 34, she had never been in a relationship (never had a boyfriend) and moved half way across the world to the US to be with her intended who she found on the web. They've had 2 weddings (to each other) and now have a son. I give it a dry twist, but it is a cool story. And the man in question is rather fetching if photoshop was not employed. So why not? I must wonder though at how one goes through 34 years without ever having been in a relationship. Isn't that super tough? I expect that the reasons we have exes is to learn about the other sex and improve our relationship skills. And I don't mean in bed, I mean just.Men and women are so desperately different, you need training wheels before marriage.

So far, my attempts have not been very successful. I'm yet to meet any of the people I've chatted with. Quite frankly, there's only 1 I'd be interested in meeting, but let's see how that pans out. If the blog changes name to 30-Something Wife, you'll know things went well :-) But I have had interesting conversations and that's not always easy to come by, much less with strangers.

It's a little funny that I'm not embarrassed by my attempts to find love online. I figured that I would be all hush hush about it and that if anything worked out with a loose Tom, we'd have to come up with a fake story of how we met for family, friends and children's benefit. Asking the web had in my mind been a sure sign of failure. Now I don't really care. Maybe the sense of impropriety fades with age ..

7 comments:

  1. I don't understand why people make a big deal out of online dating. Maybe it's coz most profiles online turn out to be something else.

    It happened to me once with some guy I'd met on facebook. :-)

    But if you find someone genuine, then why not? There must be someone out there with the same intentions as yours.

    All the best dear.

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    1. Online dating has always been taboo .. Unnatural .. Wrong! That's the picture that's always been in my head. Who'd have known it would actually be quite some fun?

      As for profiles, I've figured out the people to avoid like the plague .. And the good thing with this is you don't have to go through some polite ritual on why you don't want to talk to X .. You just don't!

      Thanks a lot Ma'am. You've earned a front row seat to the wedding! ... Well, behind family. And the wedding party. And the choir... :-)

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  2. Ahem...

    Update, please? :-)

    I have been on very good behaviour, I haven't stalked you at all for 2 whole months. Yes, I'm quite proud of myself. Plus, I was trying not to scare you off this brilliant plans with my horror storos, those buggers are mad, no? But its good fun too. Sounds like you were enjoying yourself, which brings me to...

    Update, please? :-)

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    1. In the time I've been there, I've met a total of 1 of the guys. He surprisingly turned out to be level headed and intelligent .. but somewhat stunted on the conversation front (perhaps why he resorted to the internet? And there I go profiling .. In this day and age, that's a bad word). I'm not holding my breath .. life's not long enough ..

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  3. I tried Internet dating for 2.5 months. It got so frustrating that I swore it off (for now; I make it a habit not to say "never again"). The endless boring profiles, people not looking like their pictures/not as tall as they say they are, the awkward first meetings, the sexual desperation on the part of the men.... Eventually, those messages flooding your inbox all start to become meaningless. Most of them are just "hey whats up" anyway. I'm sure these guys would come off a lot better if we met them in person, naturally. The internet reduces us to a bunch of statistics and a profile that doesn't represent us at all. I don't recommend it.

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    1. Sexual desperation galore! What! It's depressing .. Gives one an idea of why the poor donkey is under attack ...

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  4. Dating sites are as genuine a way these days to find love online as perhaps meeting someone in a pub or a bar. It is true that orthodox public is still not ready to accept its legitimacy but dating sites have to find a way to make them all believe. Anyways online dating is now easier with sites like MeetOutside bringing it for free.

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