Sunday, March 6, 2011

Cheats & Cheating

There's this new 'epuka ukimwi' ad that has Jimmy Gathu materializing into a bedroom to give a lecture on the financial implications of the Gachugwa on the errant man's pocket. Other than the humerous lashing it got from Zuqka's Philip a week or so ago ("Jimmy is having his coming out party with a calculator in hand" you know .. coz he comes out of a closet) there are a number of troubling things about that ad.

But today's post is not soo much about the ad but its message. We all know that a disproportionately high number of partners within the union of marriage cheat. I'll state early on that this is not something that is peculiar to men. A large number of women also engage in this. I've heard too many tear wrenching accounts of brides who walk in on her groom to be and best maid doing the nasty on the day before the wedding and proceeded to say 'I do' the next day as well as stories of men who busted their wives with their (wive's) bosses contorted in impractical angles.

Probably because I'm on the outside looking in, I just don't understand the reasoning behind cheating. I mean, you made us changa for and attend your wedding which is a day we'll never get back. No one forced you to go down that route so why jeopardize it? Is it the thrill of the forbidden fruit? Is it because spouse doesn't appreciate you? Is it because the sex at home is no good? Does the cheating help?

I don't judge. Just wonder.

8 comments:

  1. I agree with you! Cheating happens all the time. While it may not only be sexually..but also emotionally. The latter, according to me is the worst. An unforgivable form of cheating.

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  2. You're right. There are guys who tell me they cheat for sport (I can so I do). Emotional cheating on the other hand carries with it the complexity of taking more into the affair than the physical act. It spells doom!

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  3. I am a strong believer that marriage is a holy institution that should only be terminated upon the death of either spouse. BUT if someone reaches a place where they put the other at risk by going out there and cheating (hence exposing the faithful spouse to disease and heartbreak) then it is better to divorce. Like you, I say so looking in from the outside.

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  4. That 'one last time before walking down the isle to be shackled forever' is in the constitution. Tihihihi. As in its kinda allowed. At least thats what I heard.

    As for the rest of the cheating, maybe its out of good old boredom. And the excitement of new ventures.

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  5. Oh. And don't mind me. I'm also looking from the outside.

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  6. Lol Shiko! The least they could do is be discreet about making use of their constitutional rights! :-)

    @ijustsaidthat - maybe the problem is our perspective. Perhaps after we've been married for a year or 10 we'll be wondering how anyone can ever be faithful!

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  7. cheating, i don't know why people cheat in a wedding, i do know that i wouldn't stay in an unhappy one. rather divorce instead of a string of mistresses

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  8. I'm also on the outside looking in; and it looks ugly. Even in normal relationships, i do not understand why people risk destroying something as fragile as trust by cheating...it's just selfish not to take a minute to put yourself in your partner's shoes & see how much you'll be hurting them

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